Respect and Contempt
For a few years now, I've been studying an obscure piece of research known as FaceWork Theory. It addresses the issue that Asians call Face.
1. The Respect-Contempt Axis
2. The Approval-Condemnation Axis
3. The Cooperation-Antagonism Axis
4. The Freedom-Taboo Axis
5. The Trust-Mistrust Axis
6. The Comfort-Anxiety Axis
In the Argument/Debate Culture, the participants tend to migrate to the right on each of the above axes, generating mutual and reciprocal disrespect, disapproval, antagonism, and mistrust.
In the Dialogue Model, the participants seek to create common ground, and seek to migrate themselves to jointly shared respect, and mutual approval and cooperation.
It saddens me to note that we are more adept at Negative FaceWork Dynamics than Positive FaceWork Dynamics. We are adept at criticising, shaming, and blaming the other side, and poor at building bridges and finding common ground.
We are gifted at conflict and poor at peacemaking.